Do you ever wonder what life would be like if people knew the real you, with all your quirks and bad-hair days?
I make it a practice to never wear makeup when going to the doctor’s office. I mean, if I’m sick or have a problem I want my doctor to see the real me, not my face camouflaged by makeup. Especially when going to the dermatologist, which should go without saying. But I do the same thing with all my doctors and they appreciate it.
I wash my face and brush my teeth in the morning, but rarely wear makeup, including when I go out on a morning walk. Sporting a pair of sunglasses doesn’t hurt if I think I might run into someone I know, which I usually do. Well, if I look awful my appearance will only make others feel better about themselves. Do you ever skip makeup as Amish women do? I know that some of you may not visit a dermatologist and just try different products to see which fits, that is understandable, especially if you don’t have the time, but it can cause issues in the long run for your skin, you never know that you may be causing more skin problems for the future. Visiting private London dermatologists or ones that are nearer to where you are can be highly beneficial, just having a consultation and seeing what areas need to be attended to can make you aware and also save you money because you won’t be spending on products unnecessarily.
I naturally greet people when I see them, but I am certainly not going to hide if I’m wearing a crummy pair of sweats and my hair is a shambles. Finally learning to love my unruly hair was a huge victory. Have you made peace with your hair?
I’ve heard that adults wear a mask the whole day, except when with their young children. Keeping your frown turned upside down is exhausting. I know, as I once owned a restaurant and worked as a car salesman. Whether trodding the lot or showroom floor or serving customers I felt the pressure to appear cheerful all day at work. However my husband and friends can attest that I don’t always wear a smile.
Do you fake a smile when you feel sad? Fabricating a smile when your kids are trying to push you over the brink can have its advantages, as does restraining your temper. I’m sure my happy face used to drive my sons crazy when they were young and trying to rattle my cage. But sometimes a person needs to get real.
I know of incidences where people have embellished their resumes to land a job. If I did, I would live in constant fear of being found out. Wouldn’t you?
The truth is, not everyone is going to like me no matter how I look and I can live with that. Because someone has a different opinion than I do, doesn’t make either one of us a bad person. And I’ve learned much from others’ criticisms. While I hope readers will like my books, I know this will not always happen.
A dear friend who battled with her weight once asked how I stayed so trim. I told her, “Vanity.” Can you think of instances when vanity is a good trait?
Leave a comment to enter to win this gorgeous 37″ Amish-made table runner from Lancaster County and plus a signed copy of a novel from The Legacy of Lancaster County Trilogy, CBA bestseller Leaving Lancaster, its sequel CBA bestseller Pennsylvania Patchwork, or Forever Amish. USA and Canada. Winner chosen at random and has three days to respond. Winner announced on next week’s Blog.






I think that in some way vanity can help motivate healthy behaviors such as exercise or eating well.
I would love to win this beautiful table runner I love the many different colors
Thanks for entering the giveaway, Jennifer! I love the colors too.
Kate
This is Beautiful,love it.
I’m glad you like it, Della! Thanks for visiting my blog and entering the giveaway!
Kate
I agree with you, Michelle! Thanks for entering the giveaway and good luck!
Kate
With your question about make up, no I don’t wear any. I have freckles and to me wearing makeup would be covering up or hiding them. Took me a long time to get to the point that I like my freckles so I am not going to cover them up.
Bravo for you, Jeanne! Sounds as if you have come to love the beautiful skin God gave you as I love my uncontrollable hair, whichI tried straightening for many years. Thanks for entering the giveaway and good luck!
Kate
I don’t think so. They do make sure there is right and done to put under there covering but as for make up I have never seen one with it. That would be vanity! I am a lot like that I wear no makeup, I usually brush my hair and that’s about it. I don’t spend a lot of time getting pretty. I am what God made me. I never got my husband by doing all of that and so far we just celebrated 39 years in February. God made masterpieces why cover it?
Congratulations, Diana, both for accepting yourself as God made you and for your 39 years of marriage. I honestly don’t think my husband cares whether I wear makeup or not, nor does he notice. Got lucky there. Thanks for your terrific insights and for entering the giveaway!
Kate
I don’t try to impress anyone by wearing makeup. It’s just simpler to wash my face and go.
I love your books and would love to win.
A great attitude, Sandi. When I studied opera at the U of W, the professor said makeup actually makes women look older. So, less is more. Good luck in the giveaway!
Kate
For me I never wear makeup I use to but feel it’s a fake you not the real you so that’s a none issue with me. My hair on the other hand is long, thick, and curly so if I don’t work with it it’s big and bushy. The one thing that most people don’t know about me, and here lies my fear, is when I was in my twenties I had an abortion. It haunts me to this day even though I know the Lord has forgiven me. I’m afraid that if the people I know, and as bad as this sounds especially at church, I’m afraid they would look down on me and shun me like the Amish do sometimes. Vanity has no place to me there are more important things
The Lord is quick to forgive, Bettina. For the Amish, withholding forgiveness is a sin. Judge not lest you be judged. The truth is some people might look down at you for any reason at all. You’re right when you say some at church can be judgmental because after all they themselves are perfect. Kidding! I wonder how many women at church have made the same decision and live with shame and regret, Most likely many! Paul said he was the greatest of sinners and look how God used him for good. (1 TIMOTHY 1:15) As for hair, I can only comb my hair when it’s wet. After that I don’t dare touch it or it turns frizzy. Finally, I have a product by Aveda that helps: Flax Seed Aloe. A little bit goes a long way when applied to wet hair. I comb it in let it air-dry … and don’t keep running my fingers through it. BTW: in high school I used to iron my hair of all crazy things. Thanks for writing!
I think wanting others to like us is a good trait. It makes us try to connect with other people & have empathy for them.
I like your attitude, Susan. It is good to connect with others and have empathy for them. On several occasions though, I had to give up trying to please certain individuals. Thanks for writing and entering the giveaway!
Kate
A little vanity may be ok. I feel you like me as I am. If not, it’s their problem. Thank you for a chance to win this beautiful table runner Kate.
Thanks for weighing in with your opinion, Myrtle. I agree with you and would not want vanity to dominate my life. Good luck in the giveaway!
Kate
Beautiful table cloth love the colors
Thanks for visiting my blog and entering the giveaway, Margaret! Glad you like the colors. God luck!
Kate
I don’t wear make up till the other day and I put on a small amount of eye shadow and when I looked in the mirror I said to my self will people think I’m trying to cover up something so I washed it off
What an insightful and interesting reaction, Ernestine. I might use that concept in one of my books. Thanks for entering the giveaway!
Kate
As I have gotten older I rarely wear makeup and comfort is most important when buying shoes & even clothing. So I guess people see the real exterior even if I tend to hold my inner thoughts to myself most of the time.
I’m with you, Pamela. With clothes and especially shoes comfort is everything. I had knee problems many years ago and went to the sports medicine doctor wearing high heels. He told me in no uncertain terms that he never wanted to see those shoes again. And he was right because my terrible knee pain went away. I also like elastic waistbands …
Good luck in the giveaway!
Kate
Trying to be who I think someone wants me to be is exhausting. If I am living as the best me that I can, you are getting the best of me. And that is all I have to offer. It’s OK that some days the best is a baggy tee shirt and comfy pants.
Good for you, Kate. The best you can give someone is your attention when needed. Thanks for writing and entering the giveaway!
Kate
They do not wear makeup and their hair is put in a bun under their cap. They are more concerned about being beautiful on the inside than they are the outside. They are very plain people. We have many Amish that are like famil
Thanks for your informative and interesting letter, Wanda. I wonder if some of the young Amish women do indeed care about their hair, although they may not admit it to an Englischer. They are, after all, human … Good luck in the giveaway!
Kate
I do wear a little make-up, mainly because I am very pale. I think a little vanity is OK. By that mean keeping yourself clean and neat, after all your body is God’s temple. That table runner is beautiful. Thanks for the opportunity to possibly win.
Thanks for the great reminder; your body is God’s temple. Nothing wrong with a little makeup to give a woman a rosy glow of good health. Best of luck in the giveaway!
Kate
I’m a windblown hairstyle kinda girl 🙂
The table runner is lovely!
From your remark I take it you enjoy being outside, Deanna, something I long to do every day. Thanks for visiting my blog and entering the giveaway!
Kate
I think everyone worries whether someone will like them, as a child we were told never ever to leave the house without being presentable, no rollers in hair, clean and pressed clothes, shoes polished, and never ever would the girls wear pants because people would look poorly on my parents. As I grew up I just took for granted that meant make up, so I never left the house without it, I am now 70 years o!d and am just starting to stop wearing it and I think what are they thinking of me without makeup, but I feel better and I guess that was vanity that I wore it. I think any change in your self makes you wonder what people are saying or thinking about you.
the table runner is beautiful and would love to own it.
Thanks for your interesting remarks, Ruth! I guess I was brought up that way too, a very formal household and we were not even allowed to wear our bathrobes down to the first floor. A professor at the University in an Opera production class told us too much make up actually makes women look older. I remember his words so distinctly and thought: Good to know. Thanks for entering the giveaway. I’m glad you like the table runner!
Kate
The table runner is beautiful. Would love to have that in my home.
Thanks for the chance.
Good luck in the giveaway, Angie!
Kate
I think with age you don’t feel you have to dress and look a certain way. I know I have learned over time. I give the glory to God because it is through Him how I see myself and hope other see Him in me.
Wise words, Tina. Wishing you the best of luck in the giveaway!
Kate
Not everyone will like you no matter what ‘ you seem like a nice person ‘ would love to win the table runner ‘very nice
So true, Terry. I’m always surprised when someone just doesn’t like me, but then I let it go. If they treat me badly I pray for them, that they will be blessed. Takes away all bitter feelings on this end. Good luck in the giveaway!
Kate
Vanity is pushing me to lose weight and get healthy. I got to the point that I couldn’t look in a mirror or a photograph without cringing.
If vanity is encouraging you to lose weight and get healthy, then it seems like a benefit. Hope you’re not being too hard on yourself. I’ve known thin women who told me they thought they were fat. I assume this is how eating disorders such as anorexia take hold. Thanks for entering the giveaway!
Kate
I don’t worry what others think anymore, I stopped wearing makeup at 19, than when gray started showing use to dye it. Now 46 not wearing makeup and I don’t dye my hair. I feel I have earned every gray and every wrinkle. I also feel why impress someone else when I’m happy with myself
You sound as though you have a wonderful attitude, Melissa. You made me chuckle when you mentioned earning every gray hair and wrinkle. I’m delighted you’re happy with yourself and that you entered the giveaway!
Kate
Even though I’m retired, I still put on a little makeup each morning. Yesterday I had to go to the store. I forgot I hadn’t put on my makeup-except for eyeliner (thats a must for me everyday). I went to the store right after taking grandson to school. About 1:00 pm I saw myself in the mirror – yuck. Who cares anyway. Its not like I’m a young single girl wanting to impress someone. At my age I realized I only have to please myself & my husband. However, my vanity does come into play with my hair. I had a bad hairdresser that over processed my hair when I had it frosted. When I got home there was a huge blister on the top of my head – covered the whole top of it. When it popped & the scap came off so did a lot of my hair. I’ve worn a wig ever since – I worked where I had to meet people all day (interviews, briefings, or just one-on-one to discuss their pay problems). I wanted them to hear what I had to tell them-not have them starring at my scalp through my thin hair. That’s the first thing I do in the morning, put on my wig. The table runner is beautiful.
I’m so sorry to hear about your hair. When I went to the dermatologist recently, I was surprised when she told me they also treat hair problems. A wig during the winter wouldn’t be so bad, but come summer and warm weather … Thanks so much for your honesty and for entering the giveaway! PS: I like a little brown eyeliner too, when I remember.
Kate
I would like to assume I’m the real me all the time weither with make up or not but the truth is, a person feels better if they look better and sad to say I was one of those people in my younger days. Not so much now because as I’ve gotten older my outlook on life is this is me take me or not………I’m more comfortable just being me!!!
Wonderful that you are comfortable just being yourself. I’ve often thought how great it would be to have my knowledge in a younger body, however that is an impossibility. Sigh. Thanks for leaving your comment and entering the giveaway!
Kate
All that stuff you hide and all those behaviors you show are all part of who you are. Those strange and alien traits you would rather not claim are all facets of the same gem: you. If you have enough vanity to care what others think of you, then you have enough to stretch it to care about others. Christ said to love others as we do ourselves. This,then, is the highest and best vanity–the kind that saves us all.
A stellar insight, Judy. It is sad that many love others more than they love themselves. Sometimes I have a negative little voice in my ear. One way I’ve solved my negative self talk was to put a framed photo of myself as a two-year-old on my bureau. I’ve had to remind myself I would never be mean to that sweet little child, who still dwells inside me. Thanks for entering the giveaway!
Kate
Amish Women do not worry about those things because to them Vanity is a sin! Maybe we all should think more like the Amish!
There is a lot we could learn from the Amish, Kim. They do also struggle with sin, as they are human. If they were perfect they wouldn’t need God. I admire how they focus on Him rather than themselves and strive to adhere to the teachings of the Bible. Thanks for entering the giveaway. Good luck!
Kate
As the saying goes….”What you see is what you get”. Also…”I am who I am”.
I do not wear makeup. I am not afraid to wear “sweats”. Although, you will see me in a skirt when in Church and even at Wal-Mart.
I do not have the finances to go out and buy all of the newest fashions. (Most of my tops are at least 10 years old…)
When you see me, you will not know that I am “poor”. LOL.
I will be your best friend! You can count on me! I will love you…and, so will God!
There is a lot to admire in you, Elaine! I also dress nicely when going to church or anywhere others are having a special time. My mother told me when I was a child that people go downtown as a special treat, so as a courtesy to them we should also look our best. I don’t have many new clothes either. A new top here or there, but not much out there I want to own. I’m glad I discovered scarfs a few years ago to dress up my same old, same old outfits that are at least 10 years old. Thanks for your fun comment and for entering the giveaway!
Kate
I never wear make up. Take me as I am or not. I would love to win the table runner. My mother made us a quilt for our 25th anniversary with the same pattern but in all greens & yellows.
I’m impressed that you never wear makeup, Eileen. If you have at least 25 anniversaries I’m guessing your husband likes you the way you are. The quilt your mother made sounds beautiful. Good luck in the giveaway!
Kate
I think you are lovely, and I love your hair! My own hair does some weird things! But after having to have surgery last year on a few cysts that got infected and blew up to hugeness I couldn’t have imagined and losing all of it from the top of my head I have a new appreciation for it as it grows in strangely! I think vanity can be a good thing when it pushes good, healthy changes.
Thanks for sharing your story, Tracie. I will pray, starting this moment, that your hair grows quickly and cooperates. One reason I keep my hair long is so I can tie it back on its weird days. Maybe vanity is not the right word, but I’ve seen older women (90+) keep themselves looking trim, wearing lipstick, and fixing their hair. I consider that kind of vanity to be a good thing. Thanks for entering the giveaway and good luck!
Kate
I am who I am. I don’t try to impress anyone with my looks or how I dress. I would love to have your hair!!! My hair is thin and straight!! I keep it short. Thank you so much for the chance to win this prize. I love your books!!!
You are describing the hair I always wanted when I was young, just like my older sister, now a beautiful woman. Aren’t we funny? Thank you for entering the giveaway. Good luck!
Kate
I only wear makeup om special occasions. I am busy enough and can put those extra minutes to good use.
That’s how I look at it, Christine. If I spent those extra few minutes straightening up my desk or reading these comments, how much better. Thanks for writing and entering the giveaway!
Kate
Oh my goodness, LOVE those yellow shoes!
AND the lovely table runner, the colors are so well co-ordinated. Gorgeous.
When I worked I wore makeup every. single. day. When I left my job it felt so good to not have to do that every day and I let it fall by the wayside. I do try to put a little on to go to church, that’s about the extent of what I want to do. I’m content with being au la naturale (my face, haha), and for better or worse, it is what it is 🙂
I could not believe those fabulous yellow shoes when I saw them at a restaurant, Loretta! I told my husband there are times it pays to be a woman as the young woman didn’t mind my taking a photo of them. Well, I like being a woman every day, with or without makeup. Thanks for entering the giveaway! I enjoyed reading your comment.
Kate
Make up had never really been a part of my life. I love your books. Thank you for the opportunity.
Good for you, Christine! I would be lying if I said I never wear makeup, but try to keep it to a minimum because at the end of the day you have to take it off. What a pest. Thank you for your kind compliment about my books. Good luck in the giveaway!
Kate
I have put on a fake smile alot the past few years dealing with medical issues but with God’s help, I have been able to handle things better. As for make-up, I do wear it when I go somewhere – maybe not fully but have to have lipstick on!:)
The runner is beautiful! Thanks for the chance to win it!
I’m glad to hear your health has improved, or maybe you’re just dealing with it better thanks to lipstick. That’s all several of my friends wear and it looks great. My problem is: I can’t keep it on. When I try that long-wear lipstick, I can’t get it off at night. I’m glad you like the runner. Good luck in the giveaway!
Kate
I rarely wear makeup. I’ve been Know to go to the store with no makeup and jogging pants with a tshirt. I learned that my looks don’t really matter, but my heart does. I want people to see me from the inside and not judge me by appearances. Vanity can help when trying to lose weight or become more self confident. “Beauty is in the eye of the Beholder.”
Thanks for sharing your insights, Deana! I can tell you are beautiful on the inside. Good luck in the giveaway!
Kate
I’d love to win this lovely quilted runner. I’d love to win the book too!
Good luck in the giveaway, Martha. Thanks for entering!
Kate
I think a touch of vanity is healthy. Trying to achieve a neat appearance on a daily basis is a good thing. It helps us to feel good about ourselves.
I agree, Deb. Maybe we need to find a new word for vanity, because I don’t think people are vain for trying to achieve a neat appearance, especially if it makes you feel good about yourself. Good luck in the giveaway!
Kate
Let me see! Vanity I have it!!! keeps me going. I must be one of those that are Vain!!!! I didn’t wear makeup until I was 18 because I could afford to buy it then. I am 68 and still wear makeup everyday….some days are no makeup days but I call those my pj days and yes I go out of the house sit on my front stoop… wave at the neighbors….after all it was how I met them all….no makeup! I don’t wear it to cover up flaws….it wouldn’t help anyway, My personal opinion is you can’t hide behind a mask…people know the inner you by how you react to others and situations. Makeup is there for us to use…..so I do use it.
Your PJ days sound fun, Linda! I can’t think of a person sitting on their front stoop waving to the neighbors with no makeup and wearing PJs as vain. So true, you can’t hide behind a mask. Nothing wrong with makeup, so go ahead and enjoy. Thanks for your fun letter and for entering the giveaway!
Kate
A little powder and blush and I am good to go, most days!!! I love the table runner and all the colors in the table runner…I would be so honored to win such a beautiful prize because it is made by the Amish, who, I always so admired….
I admire the Amish too, Mary, Good luck in the giveaway!
Kate
I only wear makeup a few times a month. I like my natural look, but one in awhile it’s fun to dress up.
Can’t wait to read your books!
It is fun to get dressed up, Megan. One of the reasons I used to enjoy singing in musical theater and at the U of W was to where all the fancy costumes sewn specially for me. On stage, makeup is a requirement. Even false eyelashes, which I would never wear in public. Thanks for leaving a comment and entering the giveaway!
Kate
I never wear makeup and all I do to my hair is brush it out good,I may put it in a ponytail,braid or pull back some with Bobbie pins.I don’t care what anyone thinks or says..I am me…this is how I am.I am plain and love it.I don’t have anything against other women wearing it,but it is not who I am.I am totally happy just being me.My husband fell in love with me without the makeup and etc and we are still together 39 years later without it.He loves me for who I am and what I am.As far as people talking,they are going talk until I die and probably a long time after.As long as they are talking about me they are leaving everyone else alone.I love your books Kate and the runner is beautiful.Someone is going be very blessed.
Thanks for writing, Jackie! Yes, I’d say 39 years is a good test of time. Your husband loves you as you are. Thanks so much for your lovely compliment about my books. Good luck in the giveaway!
Kate
I would love to win! Thanks
Thanks for adding the giveaway, Susan!
Kate
Thank for giving me the chance to win that beautiful runner and book.
My sister in law was a very vain person, especially when it came down to her weight. Really too thin and when she got ill, she didn’t have any weight to help her hang in there. Me, I feel you either like me or you don’t.
I’m with you on the make up thing especially when you go to the doctors.
A neighbor once told me she attended the equivalent to AA for eating disorders, Pauline. She said the biggest problem many women, including her, had was depriving themselves of food in order to stay skinny. Being called skinny is not a compliment to me, because I like having a few curves, and because of the stories women have told me of landing in the hospital, one even in a coma, from not eating enough. Thanks for writing and entering the giveaway!
Kate
Well, I have to say I do at times wear make but I find as I get older I wear it less and less. With that said I don’t wear it for others. however, I always use good skincare as I had skin cancer on my face and now I do everything I can to help prevent a come back.
I do love your blog post, I alway am myself and have taught my children to be as well. One of the things I say all the time is: “I say what I mean, and I mean what I say”! I feel if I’m up front with everyone and they can’t appreciate that, then I’m sorry but in the end I have to be true to myself. Most people appreciate honesty and loyalty, in true friends.
I love what you say, Cherese: “I say what I mean, and I mean what I say.” My request is “Let your yes be your yes, and your no be your no.” I didn’t realize I was quoting the Bible for years, ( Matthew 5:37) Not everyone appreciates honesty, but they usually get it from me, as kindly as I can put it. Good luck in the giveaway!
Kate
I have always went with comfort and what I like over what others might find to be best. I only wear makeup to work and then it’s just a small amount.
I’m big on comfort too, Cecilia. I can’t believe the heels I used to wear to work and the tight waisted skirts. So glad I got over that at a young age, beforeI damaged my feet. Whoever invented spandex in jeans deserves the Nobel Prize. Thanks for writing and entering the giveaway!
Kate
I love the runner! Thank goodness God knows us and still loves us.
I am also grateful that God loves us and knows our every hair, Linda. Which is remarkable, don’t you think? Glad you like the runner. Good luck in the giveaway!
Kate
Real Amish women that I know do not wear makeup and their hair is put up in bun. They are more concerned that they are beautiful on the inside.
Even though I don’t wear much makeup, I always feel as though I have it plastered on when I’m around Amish women, Miriam. Covering your hair would also take away a great anxiety. I usually wear a hair clip to tame my long hair. Well, they know I’m not Amish and accept me as I am. Thanks for writing and entering the giveaway!
Kate
I do wear makeup but I work in an office building. When I’m staying home I don’t.. yes, I do wonder if I’m kind of weird for people.. 😉 I love the colors!
It’s hard to get away with not wearing any makeup at work, Janine, especially in an office building. I’m sure some people think I’m weird simply because I’m a Christian. I’m glad you love the table runner’s colors. Good luck in the giveaway!
Kate
I don’t think vanity is ever a good thing.
If vanity means getting spruced up so that you are the attention of everyone and envied by other women, I agree with you, Becky. But I know women in their 90s who like to look their best, but not outshine others. Is this true vanity? I need to look the word up in the dictionary… Good luck in the giveaway!
Kate
I do not wear makeup as true beauty comes from the heart as God’s Word says. Even trying to be in fashion with clothes is something I will not follow as there are to many immodest clothes which goes against my beliefs and the Word of God. I want to dress as a Child of God not a child of this sinful world.
Beautiful table runner. Thank you for the giveaway.
I am astounded by how many women do not wear makeup, Marilyn! Good for you. I recall looking for a dress for our son’s wedding, and finally having to hire a woman to sew one for me that was not too revealing. A simple blue silk sheath without a slash up the side. Thanks for sharing your words of wisdom and entering the giveaway!
Kate
I wear blush and a little eye makeup, but not full face. Only when I go out, not at home. I used to worry about people not liking me, but the older I get…not so much.
Age does have some advantages, Lucy! The good news is most women actually look younger when wearing less makeup. Not worrying about other people liking us is a great relief. I remember high school … Thanks for writing and entering the giveaway!
Kate
This table runner is simply beautiful. Thank you for the opportunity to win. I have never been a vain person and my thinking is we are all beautiful on the inside and it doesn’t matter (or shouldn’t matter) what we look like on the outside. God made us who we are and that’s what counts.
Great attitude, Amy! Years ago my girlfriend had two young sons. One suffered from terrible eczema on his face. She said it was heartbreaking when people turned away to keep from staring at him. Her experience taught me a great lesson. I now make a point of smiling at people with deformities or who are in wheelchairs, etc. I ran into this woman at church last year and she told me her son’s skin ailment was completely healed. She was thrilled, as you can imagine. It’s difficult when your child suffers. No doubt, other kids had ridiculed him. I know God doesn’t cure everyone, but He hears our prayers. Thanks for writing and leaving your thoughtful comment. Good luck in the giveaway!
Kate